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How to change anything in your life

<script type="text/javascript">amzn_assoc_ad_type ="responsive_search_widget"; amzn_assoc_tracking_id ="9324079739-21"; amzn_assoc_marketplace ="amazon"; amzn_assoc_region ="IN"; amzn_assoc_placement =""; amzn_assoc_search_type = "search_widget";amzn_assoc_width ="auto"; amzn_assoc_height ="auto"; amzn_assoc_default_search_category ="Apparel"; amzn_assoc_default_search_key ="";amzn_assoc_theme ="light"; amzn_assoc_bg_color ="FFFFFF"; </script><script src="//z-in.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?ServiceVersion=20070822&Operation=GetScript&ID=OneJS&WS=1&Marketplace=IN"></script> Most people know that they really want to change, yet they just can't get themselves to do it! But change is usually not a question of capability; it's almost always a question of capability; it's almost always a question...

Decide What You Really Want-

We've got to remember that we get whatever we focus on in life. If we keep focusing on what we don't want, we'll have more of it.  The first step to creating any change is deciding what you do want so that you have something to move toward.  The more specific you can be about what you want, the more clarity you will have, and the more power you will command to achieve what you want more rapidly. We also must learn what's preventing us from having what we want. Invariably, what's preventing us from making the change is that we link more pain to making a change than to staying where we are. We either have a belief like, "If I change, I will have pain," or we fear the unknown that change might bring. Step 2:Get Leverage:

How to change anything in your life....

If you and I want to change our behaviour, there is only one effective way to do it; link unbearable and immediate sensations of pain to our old behaviour, and incredible and immediate sensations of pleasure to a new one. Think about it this way: all of us, through the experience of life, have learned certain patterns of thinking and behaving to get ourselves out of pain and into pleasure. We all experience emotions like boredom or frustration or anger or feeling overwhelmed, and develop strategies for ending these feelings. Some people use shopping, some use food; some use sex some use drugs, some use alcohol, some use yelling at their kids. They know consciously or unconsciously, that this neural pathway will relieve their pain and take them to some level of pleasure in the moment. Whatever the strategy, if you are I are going to change it, we have to go through six simple steps, the outcome of which is to find a more direct and empowering way to get out of pain and into plea...