So many suffer from the delusion that emotions are entirely out of their control, that they're just something that spontaneously occurs in reaction to the events of our lives. Often we dread emotions as if they were viruses that zero in on us and attack when we're most vulnerable. We assume that emotions arise in response to what others do or say to us. Out of their need to avoid feeling certain emotions, people will often go to great, even ridiculous lengths. They'll turn to drugs, alcohol, overeating, gambling, they'll lapse into debilitating depression. In order to avoid "hurting" a loved one (or being hurt by one), they'll suppress all emotions, end up emotional androids a nd ultimately destroy all the feelings of connections that got them together in the first place, thus devastating the ones they love most. There are four ways in which people deal with emotion. Which of these have you used today? 1. Avoidance. We all want to avoid painf...