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How to change anything in your life....



If you and I want to change our behaviour, there is only one effective way to do it; link unbearable and immediate sensations of pain to our old behaviour, and incredible and immediate sensations of pleasure to a new one. Think about it this way: all of us, through the experience of life, have learned certain patterns of thinking and behaving to get ourselves out of pain and into pleasure. We all experience emotions like boredom or frustration or anger or feeling overwhelmed, and develop strategies for ending these feelings. Some people use shopping, some use food; some use sex some use drugs, some use alcohol, some use yelling at their kids. They know consciously or unconsciously, that this neural pathway will relieve their pain and take them to some level of pleasure in the moment.

 Whatever the strategy, if you are I are going to change it, we have to go through six simple steps, the outcome of which is to find a more direct and empowering way to get out of pain and into pleasure.

 Step 1: Decide What You Really Want and What's Preventing You From Having It Now.
(to be continued)

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