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4. Learning and Using..If you want to make your life really work, you must make your emotions work for you.You can't run from them; you can't tune them out; you can't trivialize them or delude yourself about what they mean. Nor can you allow them to run your life. Emotions, even those that seem painful in the short term, are truly like an internal compass that points you toward the actions you must take to arrive at your goals. Without knowing how to use this compass,s you'll be forever at the mercy of any psychic tempest that blows your way. Many therapeutic disciplines begin with the mistaken presuppositon that emotions are our enemies or that our emotional well-being is rooted in our past. The truth is that you and I can go from crying to laughing in a heartbeat if the pattern of our mental focus and physiology is merely interrupted strongly enough. Freudian psychoanalysis, for example, searches for those "deep dark secrets" in our past to explai...

3. Competition. May people stop fighting their painful emotions and decide too fully indulge in them. Rather than learn the positive message their emotion is trying to give them, they intensify it and make it even worse than it is. It becomes a "badge of courage," and they begin to compete with others, saying "You think you've got it bad? Let me tell you how bad I've got it!"  It literally becomes part of their identity, a way of being unique; they begin to pride themselves on being worse off than anyone else.  As you can imagine, this is one of the deadliest traps of all. This approach must be avoided at all costs, because it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy where the person ends up having an investment in feeling bad on a regular basis - and they they are truly trapped. A much more powerful and healthy approach to dealing with the emotions that we think  are painful  is to realize that they  serve a positive purpose, and that is... 4. Learn...

2. Denial. A second approach to dealing with emotion is the denial strategy. People often try to disassociate from their felings by saying, "It doesn't feel that bad." Meanwhile, they keep stroking the fire withing themselves by thinking about how horrible things are, or how somone has taken advantage of them,or how they do everything right but things still turn out wrong, and why does this always happen to them? In other words, they never change their focus or physiology, and they keep asking the same disempowering  questions.  Experiencing an emotion and trying to pretend it's not there only creates more pain. Once again, ignoring the messages that your emotions are trying to give you will not make things better. If the message your emotions are trying to deliver is ignored, the emotions simply increase their amperage; they intensify until you finally pay attention. Trying to deny your emotions is not the solution. Understanding them and using them is the st...