"Experience is not what happens to a man; it is what a man does with what happens to him." - Aldous Huxley You've got to realize that you must take conscious control of running your own mind. You've got to do it deliberately; otherwise you're going to be at the mercy of whatever happens around you. The first skill you must master is too be able to change your state instantly no matter what the environment, no matter how scared or frustrated you are. This is one of the foundational skills people develop. They learn how to quickly change their state from being afraid and "knowing" they can't do something, to knowing they can do it and being able to take effective action. Developing experiences like this in which you change quickly gives you tremendous power in your life - something you can't fully appreciate until you really try it for yourself. The second skill is that you should be able to change state consistently in any en...