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The Ten-Day Mental Challenge


Again, remember that you have a multitude of strategies for changing your state. 

 You could ask yourself a more empowering question like "What could I learn from this?" or "What's great about this situation, and what's not yet perfect?" These questions will lead you into resourceful states where you'll find solutions instead of dwelling on and habitually running the cycle of increased anger and frustration. 

 How many other ways could you change your state if you were really committed?

 Remember, our goal is not to ignore the problems of life, but to put ourselves in better mental and emotional states where we can, not only come up with solutions, but act upon them. 

 Those people who focus on what they can't control are  continually disempowered.Yes, it's true, we can't control the wind or the rain or the other vagaries of weather, but we can tack our sails in a way that allows us to shape the direction of our lives.

 When I first considered going on Fox's mental diet, I believed that staying positive would get me hurt After all, I had been positive in the past and my expectations weren't met. I had felt devastated. Eventually, though, I found that by changing my focus I was able to take more control of my life by avoiding the problem state and immediately focussing on solutions. My requests for inner answers were quickly met when I was in a resourceful state. 

 Every great, successful person I know shares the capacity to remain centered,clear and powerful in the midst of emotional "storms". How do they accomplish this? Most of them have a fundamental rule: In life, never spend more than 10 percent of your time on the  problem, and spend at least 90 percent of your time on the solution. Most important, don't sweat the small stuff... and remember, it's all small stuff!

 If you decide that you're going to take on my Ten-Day Challenge- and I sense you will, since you've made it this far in the book - then realize that for the next ten days, you're going to spend 100 percent of your time on solutions, and no time on problems!.

 But won't this make the problems worse?"
If I don't worry about my problems, won't they get out of control?" I seriously doubt it. Ten days of focusing entirely upon solutions, on what's great in your life, on what works and how lucky you are will not make your problems worse. But these new patterns may make you so strong that what you once thought was a problem may disappear as you assume a new identity of an unstoppable and joyous human being.... ..... ....

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