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How to Become More Lovable - (2)

We all want to be loved.
As obvious as that may be, many single Christians feel guilty about wanting to be loved. Somewhere they got the idea that this desire is selfish.

 We should give love and not expect to receive it, they think. They believe the ideal Christian is constantly doing good and being compassionate toward others, looking for nothing in return.

 That may sound noble, but the truth is that God created us with the natural desires to love and to be loved.
Many of us don't feel very lovable. A 56-year-old single person had trouble with that for years. Over time, however, God showed  him that if he was worthy of God's  love, He's worthy of the love of other human beings too. But that can be a big step to take.
We want to be humble. It can seem arrogant for a single Christian to say, "I'm a lovable person. I'm worthwhile and deserve to have someone care deeply about me."

Achieving a Healthy Balance

As single Christians, striving for a healthy balance means being neither needy nor cold.

 Desperately seeking love and going to any length to receive it is off-putting. Instead of attracting people to us, it drives them away. Needy people are scary. Others believe they could never do enough to satisfy a needy person, so they avoid them.
On the other hand, cold, aloof people seem unapproachable. Others may conclude that it wouldn't be worth the trouble to try to break down the cold person's wall. Love requires sharing, and cold people seem incapable of that.

 Confident people are the most attractive, and the best place to find confidence is from God. Confident people, both men and women, are fun to be around. They enjoy life more. They give off an enthusiasm that's infectious.

 A confident Christian understands that they are deeply loved by God, which makes them less frightened of human rejection. Confident people insist on respect and receive it.
When you empty yourself enough to be a conduit for God's love, God will reward you not only with his love but with the love of other people as well.

 There's nothing wrong with wanting others to love you. Loving others always takes a risk that you won't be loved in return, but when you know that God loves you no matter what, you can love like Jesus:
"A new command I give you: Love one another," (Jesus said). "As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this all men will know that you are my disciples if you love one another." (John 13:34-35 NIV)
If you take a genuine interest in people, if you consistently look for the good in them and love them as Jesus would, you truly will stand out from the crowd. They'll see something in you they've never seen before.
Your life will become fuller and richer, and you will become more lovable.


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