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How Questions Work -


There's a big difference between an affirmation and a question. When you say to  yourself, "I'm happy, I'm happy, I'm happy,"  this might cause you to feel happy if you produce enough emotional intensity, change your physiology and therefore your state. But in reality, you can make affirmations all day long and not really change how you feel. 

 What will really change the way you feel is asking, "What am I happy about now? What could I be happy about if I wanted  to be? How would that make me feel?" If you  keep asking questions like this,  you'll come up with real references that will make you begin to focus on reasons that do in fact exist for you to feel happy. You'll feel certain that you're happy.

 Instead of just "pumping you up," questions provide you with actual reasons to feel the emotion. You and I can change how we feel in an instant, just by changing our focus.

  Most of us don't realize the power of memory management. Isn't it true that you have treasured moments in your life that if all you did was focus on them and think about them you'd immediately feel wonderful again in this moment now? Perhaps it was the birth of a child, your wedding day, or your first date? Questions are the guide to those moments. If you ask yourself questions like "What  are my most treasured memories?" or What's really great in my life right now?" and you can seriously consider the question, you'll start thinking of experiences that make you feel absolutely phenomenal. And in that phenomenal emotional state, you'll not only feel better, but you'll be able to contribute more to those around you......

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