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Ask Empowering Questions ................



 Right now, ask yourself some empowering questions. What are you truly happy about in your life right now? What's really great in your life today? What are you truly grateful for? Take a moment to think about the answers and notice how good it feels to know that you have legitimate reasons for you to feel great now.

Questions change what we delete. Human beings are marvellous "deletion creatures". You and I have so many millions of things going on around us that we focus on right now, from the blood flowing through our ears to the wind that may be brushing against our arms. However, we can consciously focus on only a small  number of things simultaneously. So the brain spends a good deal of its time trying to  prioritize what  to pay attention to and more importantly, what not to pay attention to, or what to "delete".

If you're feeling really sad, there is only one reason, it's because you're deleting all the reasons you could be feeling good. And if you're feeling good, it's because you're  deleting all the bad things you could be focusing on. So when you ask someone a question, you change what they're focusing on and what they're deleting. If someone asks you, "Are you as frustrated as I am with this project? even if you weren't frustrated before, you may begin to focus on what you were deleting previously and you may start to feel bad, too. 

Conversely if you're asked, "What' really great in your life", and you keep focusing on the answer, you might find yourself feeling excellent immediately. ..............



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