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Knowing How To Make Yourself Feel Good ****



On a business trip to Toronto, I felt physically stressed because of intense back pain. As the plane descended, I began to think about what I needed to do when I got to my hotel. It would already be 10.30 P.M., and I had to be up early the next morning to go to a conference.  I could eat something - after all I'd had nothing all day -but it was awfully late. I could do my paperwork and watch the news. In that moment I realized all of these actions were merely strategies for getting out of pain and into some level of pleasure. Yet none of them were all that compelling. I needed to expand  my list of of ways to experience pleasure, regardless of the time or place.

 So do you know how to make yourself feel good? This sounds like a stupid question, doesn't it? But really, do you have a set of specific and empowering ways to make yourself feel good at a moment's notice?Can you accomplish this without the use of food, alcohol, drugs, cigarettes or other addictive sources? I'm sure you have a few, but let's expand the list. Right now, let's identify some of the positive choices you already have for making yourself feel good. Sit down right now and write down a list of things that your currently do to change how you feel.  As long as you're making a list, why not add some new things you may not have tried before that could positively change your state as well?

 Don't stop until you have a minimum  of fifteen ways to instantly feel good, and the ideal would be  at least twenty-five. This is an exercise you may want to come back to again until you have hundreds of ways! ............

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