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The Force that shapes your Life

Procrastination : What is procrastination?  Its when you know you should do something, but you still don't do it. 

 Why not? The answer is simple. At some level you believe that taking action in this moment would be more painful than just putting it off. 

 Yet, have you ever had the experience  of putting something off for so long that suddenly you felt the pressure to just do it, to get it done? What happened? You changed what you linked pain  and pleasure to. Suddenly, not taking action became more painful than putting it off. 

 What keeps you from approaching that man or woman of your dreams? 
What keeps you from starting the new business you've been planning for years? 
Why do you keep putting off that diet?  
Why haven't you taken control of your financial portfolio? 
What prevents you from doing whatever it takes to make your life exactly as you've imagined it?

 Even though you know that all these actions would benefit you -that they could definitely bring pleasure to your life - you fail to act simply because in that moment you associate more pain to doing what's necessary than missing the opportunity. 

 After all, what if you approached that person, and they rejected you? What if your tried to start that new business  but failed and lost the security you have in your present job? What if you started a diet and went through the pain of starving yourself, only to gain the weight back eventually anyway? What if you made an investment and lost your money? So why even try? 

 For most people, the fear of loss is much greater than the desire for gain. Which would drive you more: keeping someone from stealing the $100,000 , you've earned over the last five years, or the potential of earning $100,000 in the next five?  The fact is that most  people would work much harder to hang on to what they have than they would to take the risks necessary to get what they really want from their lives.

 The secret of success is learning how to use pain and pleasure instead of having pain and pleasure use you. If you do that, you're in control of your life. If you don't, life controls you.

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