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Making Decisions is not Easy, it takes a lot of Guts - (Boldness).....

If making decisions is so simple and powerful, then why don't more people follow this advice and "Just do it"?   I think one of the simplest reasons is that most of us don't recognize what it even means to make a real decision. Part of the problem is that for so long most of us have used the term "decision" so loosely that it's come to describe something like a wish list. Instead of making decisions, we keep stating preferences. Making a true decision, unlike saying, "I'd like to quit smoking", is cutting off any other possibility.

  In fact the word "decision" comes from the Latin roots de, which means "from" and caedere, which means "to cut". Making a true decision means committing to achieving a result, and then cutting yourself off from any other possibility.

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  After making a true decision, even a tough one, most of us feel a tremendous amount of relief. We're finally gotten off the fence. And we all know how great it feels to have a clear, unquestioned objective.
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This kind  of clarity gives you power. With clarity, you can produce the results that you really want for your life. The challenge for most of us is that we haven't made a decision in so long we've forgotten what it feels like. 

 Some people even have a hard time deciding what they're going to have for dinner....

 The way to make better decisions is to make more of them. Then make sure that you learn from each one, including those that don't seem to work out in the short term: they will provide valuable distinctions to make better evaluations and therefore decisions in the future. Realize that decision making, like any skill you focus on improving,  gets better the more often you do it. The more often you make decisions, the more you'll realize that you truly are in control of your life. You'll look forward to future challenges, and you'll see them as an opportunity to make new distinctions and move your life to the next level....
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