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Change How You Feel .....


"Experience is not what happens to a man; it is what a man does with what happens to him." - Aldous Huxley

You've got to realize that you must take conscious control of running your own mind. You've got to do it deliberately; otherwise you're going to be at the mercy of whatever happens around you.

The first skill you must master is too be able to change your state instantly no matter what the environment, no matter how scared or frustrated you are. This is one of the foundational skills people develop. They learn how to quickly change their state from being afraid and "knowing" they can't do something, to knowing they can do it and being able to take effective action. 

Developing experiences like this in which you change quickly gives you tremendous power in your life - something you can't fully appreciate  until you really try it for yourself.

The second skill is that you should be able to change state consistently in any environment - maybe in an environment that used to make you uncomfortable, but in which you can now change your state time and again, conditioning yourself until you feel good no matter where you are. 

The third skill, of course, is to establish a set of habitual patterns of using your physiology and focus so that you consistently feel good without any conscious effort whatsoever.

 My definition of success is to live your life in a way that causes you to feel tons of pleasure and very little pain -- because of your lifestyle, have the people around you feel a lot more pleasure than they do pain. Someone who's achieved a lot but is living in emotional pain all the time or is surrounded by people in pain all the time, isn't truly successful. 

The fourth goal is to enable others to change their state instantly, to change their state in any environment,and to change their state for their whole life. 

So what do you need to remember from this teaching? All that you really want in life is to change how you feel. Again all your emotions are nothing but biochemical storms in your brain, and you are in control of them at any moment in time.  You can feel ecstasy right now, or you can feel pain or depression or overwhelmed- it's all up to you. ... .... 

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