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How To Get What You Really Want.....




What do you want?

 Ask yourself what you truly want in life? Do you want a loving marriage, the respect of your children? Do you want plenty of money, fast cars, a thriving business, a house on the hill?Do you want to travel the world, visit exotic ports of call, see historical landmarks firsthand? Do you want to be be idolized by millions as a rock musician or as a celebrity with your star on Hollywood Boulevard? Do you want to leave your mark for posterity as the inventor of a time travel machine? Do you want to work with Mother Theresa organisations to save the world, or take a proactive role in making a measurable impact environmentally?

 Whatever you desire or crave, perhaps you should ask yourself, "Why do I want these things?" Don't you want fine cars for example because you really desire the feelings of accomplishment and prestige you think they would bring?

 Why do you want a great family life?Is it because you think it will give you feelings of love, intimacy, connection  or warmth? Do you want to save the world because of the feelings of contribution and making a difference you believe this will give you? In short, then, isn't it true that what you really want is simply to change the way you feel?

 What it all comes down to is  the fact that you want these things or results because you see them as a means to achieving certain feelings, emotions, or states that you desire..

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