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Too many of us don't make the majority of our decisions consciously, especially the three absolutely crucial ones, ( which I spoke of  in the earlier article)  in so doing, we pay a major price. 

 In fact, most people live what I call "The Niagara Syndrome." I believe that life is like a river, and that most people jump on the river of life without ever really deciding where they want to end up. So, in a sort period of time they get caught up in the current : current events, current fears, current challenges. When they come to forks in the river, they don't consciously decide where they want to go, or which is the right direction for them. They merely "go with the flow". They become a part of the mass of people who are directed by the environment instead of by their own values. As a result, they feel out of control. They remain in this unconscious state until one day the sound of the raging water awakens them, and they discover that they're five feet from Niagara Falls in a boat with no oars. 

 At this point, they say, "Oh shoot!" But by then it"s too late. They're going to take a fall. Sometimes it"s an emotional fall. Sometimes it's a physical fall. Sometimes, it"s a financial fall. It's likely that whatever challenges you have in your life currently could have been avoided by some better decisions upstream.

   How do we turn things around if we're caught up in the momentum of the raging river? 

 Either make a decision to put both oars in the water and start paddling like crazy in a new direction, or decide to plan ahead.

  Set a course for where you really want to go, and have a plan or map so that you can make quality decisions along the way.

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