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Ten Action Signals - Frustration




5. FRUSTRATION.  Frustration can come from many avenues. Any time we feel like we're surrounded by roadblocks in our lives, where we are continuously putting out effort but not receiving rewards, we tend to feel the emotion of frustration. 

The Message.
The message of frustration is an exciting signal. It means that your brain believes you could be doing better than you currently are. 
Frustration is very different from disappointment, which is the feeling that there's something you want in your life but you'll never get it. By contrast, frustation is a very positive sign. It means that the solution to your problem is within range, but what you're currently doing isn't working, and you need to change your approach in order to achieve your goal. It's a signal for you to become more flexible. How do you deal with frustration?
The Solution:
1) Realize that frustration is your friend, and brainstorm new ways to get a result. How can you flex your approach?
2) Get some input on how to deal with the situation. Find a role model, someone who has found a way to get what you want. Ask them for input on how you might more effectively produce  your desired result.
3) Get fascinated by what you can learn that could help you handle this challenge not only today, but in the future, in a way that consumes very little time or energy and actually creates joy.
Much more devastating then frustration, however, is the emotion of .....

6. DISAPPOINTMENT.

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