Skip to main content

Ten Action Signals - Discomfort

Your major emotions or action signals is trying to give you a positive message. Let's begin with the most basic call to action, the emotion of

1. DISCOMFORT.  
The Message :

Boredom, impatience, unease, distress, or mild embarrassment are all sending you a message that something is not quite right.

Maybe the way you're perceiving things is off, or the actions you're taking are not producing the results you want.

The Solution:
1) Use the skills you've learned in the previous articles to change your state.
2) Clarify what you do want and
3) Refine your actions. Try a slightly different approach andd see if you can't immediately change the way you're feeling about the situation and/or change the quality of results you're producing.

2. FEAR. Fearful emotions include everything from low levels of concern and apprehension to intense worry, anxiety, fright, and even terror. Fear serves a purpose, and its message is simple.

The Message:
Fear is simply the anticipation that something that's going to happen soon needs to be prepared for.We need either to prepare to cope with situation, or to do something to change it. The tragedy is that most people either try to deny their fear, or they wallow in it. 

The Solution:
Review what you were feeling fearful about and evaluate what you must do to prepare yourself mentally. Figure out what actions you need to take to deal with the situation in the best possible way.
Sometimes we've done all the preparation we could do for something; there's nothing else we can do- but we still sit around in fear. This is the point when you must use the antidote to fear; you must make a decision to have faith, knowing that you've done all you can to prepare for whatever you're fearing, and that most fears in life rarely come to fruition. If they do, you may experience.....

3.HURT.



Comments

Popular posts from this blog

WHY DOESN'T EVERYONE SET GOALS?

You might be thinking right now, "Well, this all sounds so inspiraional, but surely just setting a goal doesn't make it happen." I couldn't agree with you more. All goal setting must be immediately followed by both the development of a plan, and massive and consistent action toward its fulfillment. You  already have this power to act. If you haven't been able to summon it, it's merely because you have failed to set goals that inspire you.  What's holding you back? Surely you've been exposed to the power of goal setting before. But do you have a list of clearly defined goals for the results you will absolutely produce in your life mentally, emotionally,physically, spiritually, and financially? What has stopped you? For many it's the unconscious fear of disappointment. Some people have set goals in the past and failed to achieve them and, as a result of their disappointment and their fear of future pain, they stop setting goals. They don't ...

Questions Are The Answer.............

They needed no reason. They came simply because he was of  Jewish descent. The Nazis stormed into his home, arresting him and his entire family. Soon they were herded like cattle, packed into a train, and then sent to a death camp n Krakow. His most disturbing nightmares could never have prepared him for seeing his family shot before his very eyes. How could he live through the horror of seeing his child's clothing on another because his son was now dead as the result of a "shower"? Somehow he continued. One day he looked at the nightmare around him and confronted an inescapable truth: if he stayed there even one more day, he would surely die. He made a decision that he must escape and that escape must happen immediately! He knew not how, he simply knew he must. For weeks he'd asked the other prisoners, "How can we escape this horrible place?" The answers he received seemed always to be the same. "Don't be a fool," they said, "the...

"This, too, shall pass,"

Dr. Martin Seligman of the University of Pennsylvania did an intensive research on what creates learned helplessness. In his book Learned Optimism he reports on three specific patterns of beliefs that cause us to feel helpless and can destroy virtually every aspect of our lives. He calls these three categories permanence, pervasiveness, and personal. Many of our country's greatest achievers have succeeded in spite of running into huge problems and barriers. The difference between them and those who give up revolves around their beliefs about the permanence, or lack thereof, of their problems.  Achievers rarely, if ever, see a  problem as permanent, while those who fail, see even the smallest problems as permanent. Once you adopt the belief that there's nothing you can do to change something, simply because nothing you've  done up until now has changed it, you start to take a pernicious poison into your system. No matter what happens in your life, you've got ...