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How to change anything in your Life - Leverage



One of the things that turns virtually anything around  is reaching a pain threshold. This means experiencing pain at such an intense level that you know you must change now -  a point at which your brain says, "I've had it; I can't spend another day, not another moment, living or feeling this way."

 Have you ever experienced this in a personal relationship, for example? You hung in there, it was painful and you really weren't happy, but you stayed in it anyway. Why? You rationalized that it would get better, without doing anything to make it better. If you were in so much pain, why didn't you leave? Even though you were unhappy your fear of the unknown was a more powerful motivating force. "Yeah, I'm unhappy now," you may have thought,"but what if I leave this person and then I never find anyone? At least I know how to deal with the pain I have now".

 This kind of thinking is what keeps people from making changes. Finally, though, one day the pain of being in that negative relationship became greater than your fear of the unknown, so you hit a threshold and made the change. 

 Maybe you've done the same thing with your body,when you finally decided you couldn't  spend another day without doing something about your excess weight. Maybe the experience that finally pushed over the edge was your failure to be able to squeeze into your favorite pair of jeans, or the sensations of your "thunder thighs" rubbing against each other as you waddled up a set of stairs! Or just the sight of the bulbous folds of excess flesh hanging from the side of your body!

 A lever is a device that we utilize in order to lift or move a tremendous burden we could not otherwise manage.

  Leverage is absolutely crucial in creating any change, in freeing yourself from behavioral burdens like smoking, drinking, overeating, cursing, or emotional patterns like feeling depressed, worried, fearful, or  inadequate - you name it. 

 Change requires more than just establishing the knowledge that you should change. It's knowing at the deepest emotional and most basic sensory level that you must change. 

 If you've tried many times to make a change and you've failed to do so, this simply means that the level of pain for failing to change is not intense enough. You have not reached threshold, the ultimate leverage.

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