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how to overcome human misery

I just came across a book  which speaks about human misery and how we can overcome it. Our world has become so technologically advanced. We are striving so much forward to achieve perfection. In our lives, in our work, in what we do. There is so much competition on the job front, insecurity in our jobs, in our families.

I know of people who do not speak up and  express their opinions. They grumble and  moan all day long about the wrong things that happen in their life but they will not be bold  and speak up. They are like people who are chained, like  slaves. They fear that if they speak out  then they may lose their jobs, they may lose their friends and so on.

Not only are such people miserable but they make others also miserable. It is a very unhealthy environment which slowly kills the human spirit.

In life we face so much difficulty, injustice, wrong things seem to happen to us. Inspite of doing everything well we get the worst end. It is difficult to be POSITIVE  and remain enthusiastic in our thoughts, words and deeds. The best advice  to follow is to cut off from such people otherwise they will pull us down. 

But how can we help such people???  They are mentally ill and they will affect other healthy people. There are other  kinds  of unhappiness  also seen in high-functioning relatively successful people. Quite often, the pain and misery are unnecessary and finally end when ........

the people take charge of their beliefs, feelings and actions in order to modify the process of their lives.Unfortunately most of the time they don't. They wait then try to alter the bad result or often go to a shrink wanting just to complain about their awful life or in some way be fixed by someone else.

Now when the exams are on, do we know how our children feel ???? I'm sure they feel very much pressurized to  perform well in their exams. Parents put so much pressure on them to do well. At such young age these children get stressed out. They are afraid to speak up about how they feel, so they keep quiet  and suffer from within.  As parents we  should be kind and understanding, and be mainly supportive to our children. Never mind what marks they bring as long as they have done their best. That is what matters.  Lets understand our children better  and strive to keep them happy.........










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